Everyday I watch people make very avoidable
mistakes, mistakes primarily rooted in bad company, or wrong company. In life,
there are 3 kinds of people, even Jesus our master had theses classes of people
in His cabinet.
The Comrades: Now these are category my
sister would call ‘frenemies’, they aren’t your enemies neither are they your friends, they are the people you come
across who are in your life just cauz you both have a common enemy, an example
would be, the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN), now in this group, we
have all sorts of denominations of ‘Christians’, both those with similar
beliefs and those with conflicting beliefs, this association brings them all
under one umbrella to fight a common enemy, it will be a great disservice to
oneself to consider a comrade as friend.
Constituents: This is the category of people often mistaken
to be opportunists, the truth is that they may seem so, but they are there for
purpose, these people love your vision, they love your ambition, they are the
ones who, really will work for you, these people are with you when the going is
good, they will HELP you, build your vision, but as good as they may seem, it
is only good we take advantage of these set of people and utilize their seeming
“love” for us, cos the truth is they only love your persona, not necessarily
your person, these people should on no condition be confused with the next
category of people, they are only there to help your vision, not necessarily
your person, on no account should you expose your weakness to them, as helpful
as they may seem, they can cause a man’s downfall.
One funny thing about constituents is that
at first glance everyone criticizes them, but the truth is that EVERONE get to
be a constituent in someone else’s life. Jesus was the only human who walked
this earth and was a confidant to all
One must be very careful to determine and
categorize each person accordingly, one of the very subtle reasons for high rate
of divorces is because men marry their constituents, and then when the going
gets tough, they vamoose.
Confidants: yes, just like their names,
these are the real friends, the ones to show your weakness to, the ones to get
married to, the ones who love your persona and your person, sometimes they
don’t even necessarily benefit from you, they are put in your life to make you
a better person, these are the ‘kepeers’, but unfortunately, because most
times, people get more ‘attention’ from their constituents, they confuse these
people’s place in their lives. So you have most guys marrying their
constituents and when anything happens, it seems like these people never even
loved themselves.
From a concerned youth,
Yours Sincerely,
A.D
